I complete me!

Are single people in denial of their emotional detachment, commitment-phobe, or just happy with whom they are? Maybe some people don't realise that happiness just as loneliness, is a state of mind not really a state of being!

In any case I find it most bizarre (and annoying) that people think one needs to be in a couple to be complete.

Just the other night my little brother - who, whether he knows it or not is someone I admire and trust - in a very sweet and concerned manner brought up how "boring and lonely it must be (for me) to go on holiday alone! He was alluding to my holidays in Croatia a few months back!

Like everything there are several ways of looking at things... and weighing the pluses and the minuses...

It certainly comes in handy to go on holiday with someone else. Especially when the micro tripod you have for your mini camera fails to stand still long enough for you to take a photo. I am sure there are other advantages but none that I can think of now.

As for going away alone there are a few perks. For instance I don't have to worry about itineraries... I do what I want when I want it without concerning myself for what someone else may or may not want to do, see or eat. I can embrace my surroundings, lay down and relax listening to the nature around me! I've also crossed paths with interesting people albeit just for a brief moment...

To stay on the topic of my civil status, another old friend told me I was to straight forward and that I intimidate men... "not even allowing for a dependency to develop"... But I ask why would I want there to be a dependency?
It may be that I have never had that in my life (obvious dependency on my parents during the first two decades of my life not withstanding!), but I don't really like the idea of depending on someone. In many instances I have to suck it up, - 'tis after all the way we are socialised -
but where I can maintain my independence I will and that certainly true financially and even more so emotionally.

All the places I have been to and people I have met have brought me "here"... Here is at times quiet and at times hectic but certainly somewhere where I feel comfortable at all times. It feels great and superbly liberating. Just as good as skinny-dipping in the Dalmatian Coast in late summer!